Sometimes the wisest and most healing words come directly from my clients' mouths, even though they're asking me for the advise and healing.
As a Holistic Wellness Coach, my services end up spanning such a vast array of topics so individualized that it is difficult to summarize or even list what one might expect during our coaching session/appointment.
As they open up about their ailments and desires for wellness, unexpected relatedness comes up, and this isn't always easy for them to talk about.
Recently, during an appointment with somebody we will call "Jane," (because that's what you call a woman when you aren't really using her real name) the following tools came into play:
What I'd like to share with you was a lesson she taught herself while revealing something I think we can all relate to: feeling used.
"I feel like they [my friends] only seek my company for my services and not me personally," said Jane.
Jane, who is a highly trained chef, told me that friends will call her up and invite her over for tea. What she thinks is going to include some much needed girlfriend banter about life and love winds up being a Q&A session about what they're doing wrong with this dish or how they can't seem to master this skill or that.
She went on to express that she later realized they only text her when they have a cooking question; they only email to talk about having her host a dinner party; and she was starting to think she should be charging for their 'teatimes' since it was turning into work anyhow. Despite their offers to "share the batch of cookies once they're done" or "host the dinner party next time," they never follow-through and she isn't about to remind them of their offers.
What to do about the feelings of burnout when your friends seem to only want you for your services?
What's so tricky about this situation is that you are the sum of all your parts, and her chefyness is in fact part of what makes her interesting to others. Her connection to food may be what introduced them to begin with, or what unites them on common ground.
The part that hurts is that she feels more dread than joy when these friends text. Rather than exchanging their time, they're taking her time and asking her to offer her valuable training, which she makes a living doing, over what should be their time to release and connect on a personal level.
After asking whether or not she has expressed her feelings to her friends, she said no, "I don't want them to feel hurt since I know they are not intentionally trying to hurt me." That's just it, though...
The people who are used to taking, are often unaware when they need to give.
And while they are not mindfully seeking her time with an intent to injure her, they are also not mindfully offering their most valuable asset: their time.
The start of change...
How would you handle this situation if it were you?
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"I am here for support, guidance, education and as an example of what works for ME. What works for me may work for you or at least provide you with a starting point from which to explore. I am discovering what works for me at every moment. I don’t have it all figured out, but I do feel I have a teaching and healing nature with which I am here to share. In this blog, I offer you a view into my practice of being that which makes my experience - MINE."
Certified Holistic Health and Nutrition Practitioner, Stephanie Austin, was guided into holistic living in 2002 when she was diagnosed with Dermatomyositis, an uncommon autoimmune disease affecting the skin and muscle.
Opting for education rather than medication, Austin enrolled in a Holistic Health Practitioner program in 2004 after realizing she'd been gifted with disease so that she may learn to heal herself and later teach others to do the same.
Since her education, Austin has released over 60 pounds and conquered years of junk food addiction through holistic healing and nutrition techniques that she now passes onto others through her business, Wellness by Mother Nature.
Austin has been the Director of Education and Board Member for the nonprofit organization, The Wellness Kitchen. She is the recipient of the 2015 Outstanding Graduate Award from www.ACHS.edu.
Austin is an author, coach and speaker who empowers people on the healing value of nutrition and the innate self-healing abilities of a body in balance.
She has helped hundreds of people achieve balance through methods such as meditation, herbs, movement, supplements, aromatherapy, homeopathy, nutrition, mind-body connection, energy healing and by closely listening to the needs of her clients.
It is awareness that brings change, not your effort. Why does it happen through awareness? - because the awareness changes you. And when you are different, the world is different. It is not a question of creating a different world, it is only a question of creating a different you. You are your world; so if you change, the world changes.
My Other Blogs
I've used several websites over the years to journal my juice cleanses. Since there are many years worth of journals, I am slowly moving them all to this one. Meanwhile, you can view my First Juice Fast blog here and a few others here and here.
If you're looking for program specific blogs (ie. Juice Cleanse or Gluten Free) visit the Classes and Programs here for their respective blogs, which are password assessable to clients only.
The Traveling Homesteader has an entirely separate blog here.
Otherwise, I write everything else here at www.StephanieAustin.com.